Dear Richard, I’m pondering about…

(This is the email conversation when we first started talking about From Poverty To Prosperity, about a self-help blog, and about a Dreamwork book. Before I could do what I wanted to do in the world I had some inner work to do – mainly around the topic of Truthfulness and letting go of symbolic parasites.)
December 30, 2010

Hi Richard,

So, you’re recent dream analysis has got me pondering even more on my current life path and the dreams/goals I have set out for myself.

Recently, I have finally made some concrete plans around my freelancing and have been motivated to initiate a “social experiment” of sorts which I will blog about and suspect the results will be authored into a book as well.

My experiment is a documented journey from where I’m at now as a beginning journalist/community developer/health and wellness advocate to where I’ll be at in a few years down the road when my writings and works have gained recognition. The idea is that many people have gone from “rags to riches” so to speak, but they don’t know until they get there and they go “wow – look what I’ve done! I’ve come so far!”

Well…with me…I know I will achieve the goals I set out to do and by writing about it I am actually manifesting the dream that I intend to achieve. Does that make sense?

(Unless of course it is God’s Will for me to feel this certainty only to prevent it from happening and “sink my titanic ship” but that will just become part of the story. 🙂

In a way, I am writing as though I am famous even before I am. But I know that the things I have learned that have gotten me this far, and the things I will continue to learn can be a support and a resource to so many others on the path towards self-actualization.

Whether people are motivated to discover this path from a well-ness perspective, parenting, self-development, financial, spiritual, etc…still…we know that all of us are being prompted by our souls to discover our True Selves. And for me, to write about my True Self, the path I took to get here and the path on which I walk now in my conscious efforts to live in that awareness daily, is the only way in which I can move forward.

One of the ways that was pivotal in me finding a place of inner peace and manifesting it in the world, has been constant consultation with wise people. Susan Gammage being one of them, for example…and more recently you being another. Your dream analysis has become one of the key factors in my understanding of my current situation and what I need to do to continue to move forward.

The reason I am telling you all of this is because I wanted to tell you about my project and see if you would be interested in participating in the same way that you have been, but now it would be in a more public format.

So for example, my website/blog will document my “journey” in finding balance, health, and well-being…The project will be called The Right Food Project and my idea is to explore Food, Prayer (food for the soul) and Opportunities (Food of Life)….one of the things I found interesting was that you had interpreted food in dreams to be life opportunties.

So for me, I have this intention set before me to “report” on my growth in the next year to come and I would like to call on you to help interpret my dreams along the way. They will be a continued guide for me as I need to continue to purify my own self in order to be a clearer channel from which the Divine Spirit can flow. I am somehow a bit unique in that I have remembered my dreams nightly since a very young age and I am grateful for the insights they have given me. But I cannot substitute my own interpretations with the wisdom you have gained in your decades of studying dreams.

If you are willing to participate in this “experiment” and “adventure” there are a number of ways I would like to honour you for your time and service. One of them would be that I could help to promote your book, if this is a goal of yours, and expect that I could bring a lot of attention to your dream work. I don’t know if this is a hope of yours or if it is a mere side project. But if it is your hope to bring your work to the next level, so to speak, I know that my project can help you do so.

Secondly, I intend to generate an income from this project as well, in a modest and dignified way, and I would like to donate a large percentage, if not all of it, to the Fund. I will not advertise this, of course, it will be just a personal choice that I am making in order to allow this project to be of service to the needs of the Fund which are so great right now.

There are more ways that we could consult about too, but in the meantime these are some of the ideas that I had.

Are you interested in participating, and if so, at what level would you be confortable with? I can foresee that at times I might have dreams daily that may need interpreting but then sometimes it may be weeks between interpretations. You know how the dream world works – it is unpredictable and shy at times. LOL!

I would like to ask you for your interpretations and then publish them on my blog with your permission. How would you feel about that? I could also include a link to your website and a sales page for your book.

Your contributions would be one of several “experts” that I will consult with. Susan will be providing a Baha’i perspective, and I hope to also have a homeo-pathic/naturopath doctor participate as well. If Linda or Dan Popov would contribute as well from a virtues perspective I would also be so grateful. So we’ll see where this unfolds. I intend to often times “Ask the Expert” about certain life issues and would publish these interviews in an article format.

Please take your time to consider this request and feel free to ask for any more details or information that would make it helpful in making your decision.

In the meantime…I didn’t have a “BIG” dream last night…just a regular weird one…and since I am writing to you anyways I can’t hold back my curiousity about what you might think it means. So, if you have some time…would you mind????? (thank you 🙂 )

DREAM: Bathroom, old lady, parasites

I dream I am in a bathroom of a person I haven’t met before. She is kinda older, kinda tired but still very kind-hearted. She is having a girl guide meeting at her home and I am a new member. I like how comfortable she appears in her uniform and I notice I am wearing one too. I love the girl guides and am excited about participating. (I was a girl guide in my waking life childhood) I ask to use the washroom. When I go in I find the door doesn’t lock and it swings open. I don’t mind. (P.S. I used to have dreams like this when I would be so embarrased about the door opening that I wouldn’t use the washroom) but I go anyways and someone walks by and shuts the door. The old lady sort of huffs that I didnt’ shut it. I use the washroom and somehow when I flush stuff doesn’t all go down. A worm crawls out of the toilet onto the floor and it is clear to me that it came from me. I think to myself, well, time for a cleanse – gotta get rid of these worms. And I get a paper towel to clean it up. The old man approaches me to help but I say I’m fine and I get it. It breaks off into little peices and it all goes into the garbage. The floor of this washroom is cracked and old and even at one point I notice a hole in it and I think “whew…these people need money to fix their bathroom. This is dangerous.”I also dream that I am offered grapes and I have one and it is sweet and delicious but I am very full and I say no thank you. Grapes are my absolute favourite fruit and so even as the woman is taking them back I think “wow – how weird that I don’t even want grapes.”

Thanks Richard.

I look forward to hearing from you!

 January 07, 2011
Dear Rachel,
  Sorry that I haven’t written back earlier.  Debby and I are in Australia for holiday.  She is actually attending the Virtues  Conf. with Linda and Dan and I am flying out early tomorrow morning.
I am happy to  collaborate with you on your project.  Just keep sending the dreams.
    The dream that you sent about the girl guides gives you some good information  about where to  to begin with the project.   The girls guildes have good memories for you, but the problem in  this case is that they do not allow for letting go of old stuff.     So when you go to let go of your old stuff that is no longer needed, the washroom has problems.    This is because  most programs that invlove personal growth do not have an emptying component to them.   They rely on everyone following a uniform program of growth  which only works if you do not have a huge amount of emptyiing to do.    Letting go is what needs to be added because without it you cannot enjoy the grapes.
For instance, if someone needs more enthusiasm in thier life,   it means that there is some kind of depressing energy working that they need to examine, learn from, and then let go.    It is like when you do book 1  in Ruhi.   You can  speed up the transformation when you talking about truthfulness by giving people a chance to let go of where and how they are lying.   The right food may be truthfulness, like your grapes, but you are unable to eat them because of the worm.
I am in Australia right now.  It is a country that is very friendly and people are helpful, but there is a huge amount of obesity.   This is because  as soon as the least bit of discomfort comes up   with an issue, it is stuffed down with food.   People do not know how to deal with their anger and other issues.  In all of our firesides this is the method.  We present the spiritual food, like the virtues or writings, and then we give people the chance to empty the stuff that is in there already.  So if you are looking for inner peace, you can deal with the agitation.
Hope this helps.
Good luck..
Banana Grape Happiness for a mid-day snack with Gracie 🙂

Three Whales – Three Big Dreams: Overcoming the Fear of Going Deep in Relationships

My daughter and I were at an amusement park and were going down to see the whale show. The bleachers were set up beside the ocean. We go down there and there are 3 orca whales that are interacting with the people in the front row. They are playful and beautiful. So magestic. She comes down and is in a great mood then she just jumps right into the water. I’m not concerned at first. I know she can swim. But then instead of coming up to me she swims farther into where the whales are swimming and even past them. A lifeguard jumps out to get her. The whole audience is hushed as they wait. The lifeguard gets her and brings her back. She had swam very deep and very far away. Never coming up for air but not appearing to struggle. I hold her and hug her and say ‘Oh my girl. I love you so much. You scared me.” She doesn’t understand what the big deal was. I don’t know what to tell her.

(In the time when the lifeguard is swimming out to her and the audience is hushed I am feeling ashamed that she just jumped like that and I didn’t protect her. I feel that the audience is judging me and that it appears she doesn’t respect me.)

Thank you.


Dear Dreamer,
It is nice to hear from you.    In the first dream you can think of yourself as your daughter, while in the second dream you can think of your daughter being you and it being her.

In the first dream you (as your daughter’s age) want to speak, but you as the mother want to her stop in a violent way.   So you can say that you are violent with yourself from speaking out more probably in a positive way about the big dreams you have and the things you want to do.    The second dream is clearer about it.   You have 3 big dreams(goals in your life) which are symbolized by the 3 Orcas and at first you can just dive into to achieve them, but then you get fearful of going too deep and too far and begin to panic so you send out the rescue to get yourself back to where you are right now.

The way you are raising your daughter and leading your life is allowing her and you to have big dreams and to go for them but you are fearful of going too deep and too far so then you do everything you can to stop them even being violent as in the first dream.    The fear began at the current age your daughter is and that is why you are violent to shut it down because you are so fearful that something bad is going to happen to her because something bad happened to you at that age.

So you can say that you are doing a wonderful job raising your daughter and that is leading her and you to be able to have big dreams and aspirations,  but there is a fear that something bad is going to happen that keeps you from going after the bigger things and thus encouraging her to bigger things.
As soon as you address the fear you can be thinking much larger about your life.

Sweet dreams

Dream Interpreter

Going From Over-powered to EmpowerED

In October 2009, I shared a “dream” with Richard that I had when I was 15. In the scenario I was being over-powered by someone I knew. 

This “dream” haunted me for the later part of my teenage years and into my early adulthood because a counsellor I had told at the time thought it didn’t sound like a dream to her. She thought it sounded like it had really happened and that I had disassociated because of the trauma of the experience. 

Richard’s interpretation which I share here really put things into perspective for me. Either it was a dream and could be taken metaphorically to be a message about oppression and powerlessness which I was truly living in, or it was real in which case I could still consider the metaphor of the experience and could investigate further.

By considering the metaphor, I could actually begin to detach from the fear for the first time since the experience and begin to develop a degree of peacefulness I had never known before.

Here is our dialogue about the topic.

On Mon, Oct 19, 2009 at 8:09 AM, Rachel Pellegrini

Dear Richard,

For many years I have been a workshop facilitator for The Virtues Project and have used the strategies of the virtues project in my classrooms, family, and in my personal healing.  Funny that you say my dreams are saying I need peacefulness now because that was always my goal of course, but I first needed courage, determination,
forgiveness etc. etc. (qualities I have been practicing for a number of
years now) in order to get me to the place now where I can finally embrace peacefulness with my whole heart. 
In the dream about the thief, when you
> wrote that I had achieved justice and that it was now a time for peace it
> really hit a cord with me and rang true.  It seemed to me that I had
> achieved my aim and there is a great peace that accomplishes that.
> It feels wonderful to be here now at a place where I feel peacefulness in my
> life and am ready to do what needs to be done to maintain it.
> I am glad that I sent you that last dream for your consideration. Your
> analysis has been, and will continue to be helpful as I work through this
> stage of my personal growth.
> Warmest regards,
> Rachel
> On Sun, Oct 18, 2009 at 12:11 AM, Richard Hastings
>> Dear Rachel,
>>    It is really nice to see that you are dealing with some really
>> important issues in your life and that you are going at them in a
>> really great way.    The first thing that I want to say is that it is
>> important always in the first phase of dream interpretation to deal
>> with things metaphorically rather than literally because there is more
>> to be learned on a metaphoric level than on a literal one.
>>    In real life rape is forcing someone to have sexual intercourse
>> without their consent.   In the dream world sexual intercourse, if it
>> is positive, is the coming together of two sets of spiritual qualities
>> so that they can work together to achieve something greater.   When
>> you interact with someone else’s qualities, then you can learn them
>> and integrate them into your life so that they can produce something
>> new.    Rape is being forced to have intercourse with the dark side or
>> ego side of someone.   It causes fear and powerlessness and prevents
>> people from producing really positive things.
>>    So the purpose of the dream is to actually do the opposite of what
>> the dream is giving you.   Being raped by someone at 15 in
>> metaphorical terms means being forced to interact really closely with
>> his ego, which is all of his bad qualities.   What is particularly
>> difficult is that 15 is the age at which you are no longer a child,
>> where you are taking your first steps into adulthood.  So the
>> challenge you had at that age was that you were living with fear and
>> forced to be his partner as if you were his partner even though you weren’t.
  The fear that the dream produces is having to live out that role
>> against your will.   The consequence of rape is the feeling of
>> powerlessness and fear so I am sure that these are the feelings that
>> you have had to live with in relation to someone.
>>    So what the dream is looking for is the opposite in positive
>> terms, but it is presenting you the rape because it is warning you of
>> the difficult times ahead with someone and his dysfunctions.
>> The quality that you needed when you were 15 from someone was the
>> quality of peacefulness so that you could be guided along your own
>> path.  Instead you got him and his ego, a person barely surviving his
>> own life.   This is not to be said for you to be angry with him.  He
>> was probably doing the best he could.   The fact is that what you
>> needed you didn’t get, so now you have the opportunity to give it to
>> yourself so that those who come after you  as well as you own self can
>> benefit from it.
>>     One of the ways you  can tell about the real rape or imagined is
>> to analyze how this person used power.   If he had power issues,
>> then you might investigate it further, but if he didn’t, then it is
>> more likely that it is a dream state and not a real one.     One way
>> or the other,  he wasn’t the positive person you needed when you were
>> making your own first steps toward adulthood and this is the critical
>> issue for you.
>>    So one of the big questions you are going to have to ask yourself
>> is why peacefulness?   Why not courage, determination, love, honesty,
>> or a host of other virtues?    The virtue of peacefulness will allow
>> you to stay fully on your own own unique path, which is different
>> probably than almost everyone you know.  The further your path is away
>> from the mainstream the more you need the quality of peacefulness.  It
>> allows you to be free from distractions and trappings of the world.
>>  You are likely already on that path, but now your poised to take some
>> major steps forward.  That is why you are so keen to do the spiritual
>> work.
>> Warmest greetings
>> Richard
On April 10, 2016 Richard added this post to his website about inner work and transformation after experiencing trauma. I find it relevant.
Here is the link.
Since then we also worked on a 19-Day Transformation Program and a Dreamwork Module.

Heal Trauma Using Dreams

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