Category Archives: Frustration

My Dream of Running an AirBnB

September 30, 2018

In the dream, I’m running an AirBnB. After the visitors leave I go into the place and find they’ve left it in complete disarray which gives me a feeling of frustration. I get busy cleaning it and it takes a long time to get it back to its original condition.

Dreamwork With Prisoners: Broken Toilet in Parent’s House

A prisoner recently told me this dream and then he said, “there you go. You can put that one with all the others.” So I’m sharing this dream as a part of the Dreamwork With Prisoners series.

I go to the house and find my brother has taken and thrown out all my stuff and special valuable things that belonged to our parent who passed away. Then I went into the bathroom to take a piss but the toilet was broken and I had to pee into a hole in the floor.

Houses in dreams are metaphors for the Self. Since this is a parent’s home, this dream is about the qualities both weak and strong which the dreamer & his brother inherited from their parent. His brother deals with life differently so even though he may have inherited some things he chose not to acquire the positive traits so that’s why he’s metaphorically throwing them out in the dream.

Urine in a dream is a metaphor for anger. when the dreamer finds the toilet broken this means his parent did not have a good and effective way of dealing with anger and so has he this weakness because his parent had it.

The solution to a dream like this is for the dreamer to do two things. First he can remember all the positive qualities about his parent and he can recall all the ways he is positively similar. Those skills and talents can help him solve the problem of too much anger. To fix the plumbing, or in other words to become more effective with processing and releasing anger. The dreamer can notice when he gets angry and then let it go.

He can do the positive opposite of his brother. His brother is getting rid of the positives and hanging on to negative so the dreamer can hang on to the positives and get rid of the negatives. It wont be too easy to do but will work in time. the quality the dreamer needs is probably something like peacefulness, patience, and awe or wonderment.  His parent likely had an abundance of these and the more he remembers to call on them when facing challenges the more they will develop in him too.

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If you’d like to explore the concept of inherited, acquired and learned qualities in greater depth, you can read more by Richard Hastings at this link on Dreams For Peace.

Dreamwork With Prisoners is an initiative which enables prisoners to share their dreams & nightmares and receive an interpretation which can support inner transformation. The development of new qualities can support them during their incarceration, trial and probation. It can also bring out Patience and Enthusiasm for those who have longer sentences. The key to this work is releasing all judgement and seeking for the positives.

If You Dream of a Clogged Toilet, Start Looking For Better Ways to Let Go of Your S*&T.

17 September 2017

One of the most misunderstood metaphors in DreamWork/Changework is theIMG_0874 BATHROOM. Using a bathroom in a dream can best be understood by first noticing where is the bathroom? Is it in your home? Or a public location like a restaurant or school? Is it in an unusual place like an open field? The location of the bathroom in your dream can give you clues as to the message of the metaphor.

The problem with writing or talking about bathrooms in dreams is because they are the most private parts of a home or a public space. A bathroom dream symbolizes the most private parts of the dreamer. How the dreamer deals with anger, jealousy and embarrassment will show up as a dream about using the bathroom.

The positive message about a bathroom dream is that every human being experiences anger, rage, jealousy or embarrassment at one time or another in their lives. Since the purpose of life is to continue growing and developing skills & capacities it means the best way to live is in a constant state of change. Sometimes change is messy and sometimes it’s embarrassing. That is completely okay and to be expected. The better a person gets at working through their anger, jealousy, disappointments, anxieties, etc the better they will get at making their life really work out in amazing ways.

In my dreamwork this morning I was reminded that I have a tendency to hold things in and not want to share the very most private parts of myself. People might chuckle at this, given the very public nature of The Dreamwork Blog but believe it or not, I tend to be more of an introvert and there are parts of myself which I really don’t want to share publicly.

This goes for everyone, no doubt.

If you dream of a clean bathroom which is easy to use, it means everything is working well with you right now and you can just keep doing what you are doing.

If you dream of a clogged bathroom or toilet it means there is some work to do to unclog the way you express your emotions.

So if you dream of a dirty or broken bathroom then you can ask yourself: Where in my life am I holding back some negative emotions and how can I express these things in a better way?

Consider where in your life things are messy or complicated or uncomfortable. Wherever you experience a high degree of stress in your day-to-day life then you can notice that this is the problem area showing up in your dream and you can take steps to make the challenges go away.

The right way to deal with negative emotions will have something to do with your own natural gifts, skills and capacities. The things which come easiest to you and which you have been doing all your life will be a hint at the way you can continue growing by repeating your positive strengths. When you do that, you’ll find bathroom dreams keep getting better and better and maybe stop showing up altogether.

Dream: My Mom Dumps Stuff On Me … Again

13 September 2017

IMG_1326In the dream, I exit my front door and find there is a camper-trailer in the front driveway as well as a truck full of things. The front yard is cluttered full of objects. It looks like someone bought 100 broken things at garage sales and then dumped them all on my front lawn. It doesn’t take me long to recognize that my mom has come in the middle of the night, emptied a yard-full of junk because she didn’t know where else to put it and then left. When I ask her about it, she denies it.

But then I see her ex-husband there moving things out and I know the Truth!

This kind of clutter is NOT ALLOWED on my property and I know when my landlord sees it he will be upset and want me to move it immediately. How can I get my Mom to move it immediately when she won’t admit it is hers?

I consider going to my landlord proactively and telling him what has happened but I know that he will find it very odd and he will consider lots of things including that I have made up some sort of lie to cover up something or someone because it just doesn’t make sense to have a bunch of things on your lawn and not know whose they belong to.

If I don’t tell him and just start helping my ex-step-dad then I look like I’m taking responsibility for it even though it isn’t mine and I have no idea why it is there.

If I don’t tell him and also don’t start help moving it out and cleaning it up then it appears to be mine and by that non-action I invite him over to be the one to bring to my attention the issues.

So in the dream, I’m standing there, looking at this enormous pile of junk 7 feet high on my lawn and I am wondering what on earth can I do now?

As I watch, my ex-step-father just keeps moving things onto the truck and preparing to take them away.

My analysis: Clutter & mess is about the ego in a dream. Sometimes someone becomes so full of ego, so full of their false selves, that they create a lot of “mess” in the lives of others around them. Since I didn’t move in the dream but just watched it means the thing I’m learning to get good at is saying NO to the ego-mess caused by people who are full of their negative selves and keep dumping stuff on me trying to make me look bad. I know the Truth though and others who look close enough can know the Truth too. It’s a good lesson for us all to learn and in time it will get easier and easier!