Category Archives: Being Shot

DreamWORK – It’s not all fun & games … but is worth it in the end

17 August 2017

I’m going to write this to give you an idea of the way I work with a nightmare in very specific detail.

The dream scenario was that I was in my room and sensed something was wrong in my daughter’s room. When I went into her room I found a man had invaded our house & was standing over her with a shotgun pointed to her face. I froze.

So to work through this dream first I have to understand the threat of the man & the gun.

Since it is a man unknown to me then this means it is a cultural issue and it not showing up in one specific man who I know but that all men have this potential threatening part to them. That’s pretty easy to understand since we live in a culture which is still male-dominated and incredibly debilitating to and for women.

I freeze in the dream and that means that the solution will be about my learning to move, spiritually and literally.

So how do I get out of the mental habit of freezing when I am threatened? How do I learn to keep moving even when things are a bit scary?

That’s where the WORK part of dreamwork comes in.

First I worked through the issue in a session with Richard Hastings from Dreams For Peace. He gave me some homework to do and now whenever I feel myself getting stuck I just do the homework.

Here is an example:

I can ask myself:

  1. What is the biggest challenge I am facing today? or What is the biggest challenge facing my daughter today?
  2. How does it make me freeze?
  3. When do I remember this type of challenge first showing up (usually in childhood or teen years)?
  4. What did I do in the past to deal with this challenge? What can I do differently now?

In this case, the fear I have is that someone will hurt me or my daughter. This is a natural fear any mother has. My own personal fear is heightened because I face many financial obstacles which leave us a bit more vunerable than if we had a bit more money at our disposal.

So I can think about who in my daughter’s life may hurt her and how and then I can think of what I can do differently so that this can be prevented.

The solution may bring up my own fears and so I need to work through those before or at the same time as preventing her from getting hurt.

As I resolve my own fears I can then easily move forward to ensure she is protected and safe.

Resolving my fears involves a visualization exercise.

I can recall someone who hurt me in the past and I can think about how I may fear they may hurt me or her again.

Then I can just turn down the volume on their negative voice and even erase the image of them in my mind as though they are disappearing. And then the fear is not so strong.

When they are gone out of my mind I can move forward exactly as I want and need feeling fearless and brave.

This is one of the types of exercises I do to work through a fear which showed up in a dream and to learn a new skill which increases my own confidence & courage.

When I move forward in this positive way many good opportunities open up for me and my daughter! 16507903_688004734714732_4993852702777196850_n

Targeting the Assassin

08 August 2017

In a physical fight as soon as a weapon is introduced, be it a gun or a knife, then it’s not not just a fight anymore ~ it’s a matter of life & death.

There is a saying in self-defense which is, “Don’t bring a knife to a gun fight,” and that is about having the right way to protect yourself in the right situation.

The truth of this statement is also found in dreamwork. If an assassin is trying to shoot you or someone you love in the dream, then the solution has to do with shooting back positives. If the assassin is trying to slice you in a dream, then the solution is to metaphorically slice through the obstacles positively in real life.

If an assassin shows up in your house in your dream and he has a gun and he’s targeting someone you love, better get a metaphoric gun, and shoot him down so he is disarmed and you are safe.

Dreamwork: Running From My Sister’s Negatives Brings Me Face-To-Face With My Mom’s

12 September 2017

This dream has two people in it who I know in real life. The important thing about dreaming of someone who you know in real life is to first think of them as a metaphor and not about the real person. The reason for this is so you can get the message of the dream and make any changes to your Self so you can grow. In real life, we cannot change anyone. They can change themselves if they wish to but we can NEVER change another person. So when someone shows up in a dream doing something negative then it’s valuable to think of the metaphor first because the amount of change in the realms of metaphors is infinite!

16722773_900950760007700_2345383566047671315_oIn the dream, my biological sister is chasing me, mocking me, taunting me rolling her eyes at me, getting others to look down on me.

When she doesn’t stop I run away and when I run away she follows me, thinking it is an entertaining game and finding it really enjoyable seeking out to destroy me.

In the dream, I run into a Martial Arts training club and blend in with the crowd who are training. She comes into the club and stops in her tracks.

(There is something so powerful about a group of Martial Artists!)

I speak with the lead instructors and I start training with them. When I leave the training area I am given a phone and speak with someone from Children’s Aid Society.

They ask a few questions then end the conversation. Later I find out someone had reported me to the agency after they read something I had wrote against them. But there is no further issue.

Then I am sitting in a bus and look up and my biological mother is there, glaring down at me. I want to run away but don’t need to run anymore. She starts saying all her negative things and I say,

“Perhaps the reason my sister acts the way she does is because of the negative way you are as a parent. Perhaps I am not the problem but YOUR PARENTING is the problem.”

She looks entirely baffled.

She wants to say No. But she can’t speak.

There is Truth to what I was saying and she knows it.

That is the end of that dream.

Changing With Dreamwork

29 August 2017

In the dream, I go with my daughter and sister to my Mom’s house. It’s cluttered, messy & dirty. My daughter is really young. At one time she’s about 3 years old and then another time she’s an infant. In the dream, I wanted to learn from my mom about how to be a caring mother but instead she was following me around the apartment and criticizing me.

I took good care of my daughter based on instinct, despite the environment being cluttered and messy. I wrapped her up in warm clothes and talked to her sweetly. Told her I loved her.

Then when I looked up my mom had 3 guns. She kept one for herself and gave one to my dad and one to my sister. She started aiming and firing at me, and my daughter.

I couldn’t get all three guns out of their hands so I called 911 and they said they’d send someone over but while I was talking on the phone then she changed her approach. She stopped firing but she started speaking in really negative words. I told her that her negative words are just like bullets, emotional bullets. She didn’t stop.

Then I grabbed her face and lips and tried to shut them.

She acted like an android and did not have a natural human response to that kind of stimuli. She didn’t flinch. She didn’t move a muscle and tried to just keep talking in her poisonous words.

I became filled with rage and felt like I wanted to kill her. To stop her and to end her violence. But I am not a killer. So I just pushed her away. She returned to the kitchen as though looking for something, like a cup to pour coffee in.

I was still on the phone with the officer and asked directions on how to get out of here.

Next I was on a Go Train and my sister was with me. She was tried from all the fighting and she rested her head on my lap. We got to our stop and got off but I didn’t really recognize where we were. I was carrying my daughter as an infant with us and got on a bike but then had to get off when the hill became too steep.

I walked the bike to the bottom and someone told me I’d have to pay Google for use of the bike because of some new trademark thing. I thought it was ridiculous.

Also I saw someone who wanted to commit suicide and I encouraged him not to.

Lastly, I bought something for $87 and it came out of my account which only had $94. I wondered when things will change.

Facing an Armed Gunman in Dreams & in Real Life

27 July 2017

In self-defense, as soon as there is a weapon involved then the fight is life or death. Everything changes. If it’s a gun, a knife or a sword, it doesn’t matter. The weapon can kill and so the nature of the fight changes immediately.

A gun is a weapon that fires bullets at short or long range so in a dream a gun is a metaphor for the way people shoot out negativity to harm someone. To have a gunman in a house is like a symbol for how negativity can affect someone’s self and cause harm to their true self.

In a dream recently, a large man was pointing a gun at my daughter. In the dream I froze but in real life I wouldn’t.

The first thing to do is to get the gun out of the gunman’s hand. In this case, if the situation were real life I could lunge at him and snap the gun out of his hand quickly.

But in a dream the gun is a metaphor for negative words. So the solution is more about the metaphor of disarming negative words than about actual martial arts-style gun work.

If I were to think of this dream as a metaphor for someone negative being really close to my daughter and pouring out enough negativity to kill her then I can remember that the solution to a negative dream is the positive opposite.

If the threat to Gracie is someone standing really close and threatening to shoot her with a gun then the solution is for me to be really close to Gracie and give her positive and direct encouragement to uplift her.

The fact that in the dream I didn’t just knock down the gunman means that I have some fears, reservations & hesitations about getting the gunman out of our house. It likely has to do with my own memories of being shot down in the past, especially when I wanted rest & relaxation.

The other thing about dreaming of my own daughter means that I can think of her as myself at age 12 and do some work on memories of my own experience at that time. And I can also think of it as her and considering how can I as her mom give her the most positive & uplifting environment possible.

These are some questions I’m sitting with today & reflecting on.