Category Archives: Parenting

My Dream of Pushing Through a Warehouse Wall & Getting Stuffies

October 26, 2018

In the dream, I’m trapped in a warehouse but I go up to a wall and put my hand through it, then my whole body and I move through that wall. On the other side are a bunch of stuffies on a shelf, like in a store & suddenly Gracie is there with me so I tell her to pick one and I’ll buy it for her.

Parent When the Parent Starts Setting Clear Boundaries

28 August 2017

When a parent does dreamwork/changework they first work on themselves, heal from their own traumas in childhood and resolve their issues then they can super charge their abilities to support the development of virtues and positive qualities in their children.

Then they can really start being a fantastic parent for their children because now that they are free from the past issues they can more fully support their children. In this way, their children will not inherit or learn the same fears their parents had. In this way, each generation becomes better than the one prior to it. In this way, generations and the whole world can heal & change for the better.

When a parent is clear about their expectations and sets clear boundaries a child may become upset. When they are upset & angry that they are no longer getting their own way they might say a whole host of negative things to try to break their parent down so they can get their own way.

Here are a few statements a child might say:

  • This/you are ridiculous.
  • I hate this/you.
  • You are SO not a good parent.
  • Oh, it’s going to be “this” kind of day (eyes rolling)
  • You can’t make me do anything.
  • I’m not listening to you.

In situations like this, it is helpful if the parent can practice the exercise of turning down the negative voice that they are hearing from their child.

A parent does not need to respond to every statement the child makes. The change work involved in this process is to simply notice the negatives and turn them down.

In this way, the parent can stay focused on the task at hand, repeat themselves if necessary and stand firm with what the expectations are.

It is not easy. I’m not saying it’s easy.

But when clear boundaries are set and the child is enccouraged to follow through with responsibilities & obligations then they will learn essential skills needed for a productive and full-filing adult life.

Dreamwork Helps Solve Common Issues In Young Children

Giving attention to the message in dreams can help to reveal issues which a parent has in their lives. When a parent can work through the issues and solve them so that their best qualities and characteristics are developed then the children can also learn these new skills and can demonstrate the strengths in their parents. In this way dreamwork helps solve common issues which are otherwise passed down from generation to generation.

Dreamwork & Parenting for a bright future

24 August 2017

Dreamwork and Change work can help parents understand who the child’s True Self is and what they want/need as support to bring out their best self. When a parent understands their own issue and works through it so it’s not an issue anymore then they can be even more supportive to their child in dealing with that issue and the child will not inherit or learn to have those same issues. In essence, this is how the world is changed, one generation at a time and this is why the future is just so brilliantly bright.

DreamWORK – It’s not all fun & games … but is worth it in the end

17 August 2017

I’m going to write this to give you an idea of the way I work with a nightmare in very specific detail.

The dream scenario was that I was in my room and sensed something was wrong in my daughter’s room. When I went into her room I found a man had invaded our house & was standing over her with a shotgun pointed to her face. I froze.

So to work through this dream first I have to understand the threat of the man & the gun.

Since it is a man unknown to me then this means it is a cultural issue and it not showing up in one specific man who I know but that all men have this potential threatening part to them. That’s pretty easy to understand since we live in a culture which is still male-dominated and incredibly debilitating to and for women.

I freeze in the dream and that means that the solution will be about my learning to move, spiritually and literally.

So how do I get out of the mental habit of freezing when I am threatened? How do I learn to keep moving even when things are a bit scary?

That’s where the WORK part of dreamwork comes in.

First I worked through the issue in a session with Richard Hastings from Dreams For Peace. He gave me some homework to do and now whenever I feel myself getting stuck I just do the homework.

Here is an example:

I can ask myself:

  1. What is the biggest challenge I am facing today? or What is the biggest challenge facing my daughter today?
  2. How does it make me freeze?
  3. When do I remember this type of challenge first showing up (usually in childhood or teen years)?
  4. What did I do in the past to deal with this challenge? What can I do differently now?

In this case, the fear I have is that someone will hurt me or my daughter. This is a natural fear any mother has. My own personal fear is heightened because I face many financial obstacles which leave us a bit more vunerable than if we had a bit more money at our disposal.

So I can think about who in my daughter’s life may hurt her and how and then I can think of what I can do differently so that this can be prevented.

The solution may bring up my own fears and so I need to work through those before or at the same time as preventing her from getting hurt.

As I resolve my own fears I can then easily move forward to ensure she is protected and safe.

Resolving my fears involves a visualization exercise.

I can recall someone who hurt me in the past and I can think about how I may fear they may hurt me or her again.

Then I can just turn down the volume on their negative voice and even erase the image of them in my mind as though they are disappearing. And then the fear is not so strong.

When they are gone out of my mind I can move forward exactly as I want and need feeling fearless and brave.

This is one of the types of exercises I do to work through a fear which showed up in a dream and to learn a new skill which increases my own confidence & courage.

When I move forward in this positive way many good opportunities open up for me and my daughter! 16507903_688004734714732_4993852702777196850_n