The biggest mistake people make when they are first starting out in the transformation process and just newly beginning to make positive changes is that when they have a dream they will think of it literally. For example, if I dream that someone is my boyfriend it doesn’t mean they should be /are my boyfriend in real life. If I dream of working somewhere it doesn’t mean I do or should work there in real life. Dreams are metaphors; they are symbols. And the message of the dream is ALWAYS about how to overcome an issue and get to the positive growth. Sometimes in really positive dreams, there are no issues and the dream is a positive encouragement to really drive forward in life with getting to your goals.
Here is a dream about someone who is my boyfriend in the dream but is not my boyfriend in real life:
In the dream, I am enjoying a dinner party with an attractive man who was my boyfriend in the dream, even though he isn’t in real life. There is a large catered dinner for guests at this resort and I watch a server bring out a roasted turkey on a platter, slice it expertly with one hand and then distribute it to the guests seated at the table.
I turn to my date who is sitting across the table from me. The lights are dim and it’s quiet in our corner. A server brings us over a tall glass of beer telling us it is one of their finest. I chuckle a bit on the inside that the restaurant has gone to the efforts to try to make beer fancy. And I am also thinking about how to tell my date that I don’t drink but I am also thinking maybe I will drink, just a little. I’m imagining how delicious and refreshing it would be.
He tells me he wants to order more alcohol but wonders what kind I would like. I start remembering what I’ve drank in the past and what tasted good. So as I’m sitting there thinking about my options then a large insect flies onto my arms.
It’s the size of my forearm, has huge wings and the general appearance of a horse fly but it is more colourful. Once it lands it is so still and does not move an inch. I perceive no threat. It doesn’t seem to have any stinger or an intention to bite or sting. So I just observe it and it is really quite intricate.
Sometimes, in a dream, the true character of someone emerges, or a truth about a situation is revealed which was previously hidden. Take this next dream, for example, in it, I realize that someone is doing something she isn’t supposed to. She’s hiding something and she’s at the wrong place at the wrong time in her life so it shows up in the dream. I discover the truth by just doing a regular daily activity. She is the one who is up to no good. For me in the dream, I’m enjoying a walk in the neighbourhood. For her, she’s criminally-minded and trying to keep secrets. Here is the dream:
In my dream, it was back when I was in my 20s and we lived in the same part of town. I am walking down the street and see her come out of her apartment to walk her dog Noah and I’m surprised to see her and say/or think something like, “My friend! What are you doing here? You died!” And her reply was something like, “yeah, Rache, I’m dead but I didn’t want to go just yet so they (?) gave me another week so I can stay for another week but no one is supposed to know Rache but now here you are and now you know. Leave it to you to be at the wrong place at the wrong time (when I’m trying to hide something).”I say, “okay. Can I join you for the walk then?” And she says okay.
This morning I woke up at 4:30am having just had a dream about someone. In the dream I am traveling with her. She’s dying of cancer and telling everyone it’s her last days and I’m there with her to comfort and encourage her. She looks beautiful, wearing turquoise and white, wearing large stones, beautiful jewelry and sandals.When she curls herself up into a ball sobbing I just wrap my arms around her and hold her, comfort her and rock her a little bit, saying soothing words, encouraging her. In another part, I’m the one upset and she tells me I have to get ready to let her go and I tell her no and she says Yes.We are driving in her old car “Nelly” and I’m in the backseat. Soon a helicopter is shining a light on us and police are calling out commands in their loudspeaker. For some reason she keeps going and I don’t understand why she’s not stopping. She tells me she’s going to go as far as she can and when it’s time to stop she will.Eventually she does stop, by the Peace Bridge in Fort Erie and an officer arrests her. I’m standing by the car confused.Are they just stopping her to question her? Are they going to detain her? Has she done more than I am aware of? Will I be questioned?She looks over at me, with her hands behind her back in handcuffs and she mouths to me that she’s sorry, sort of shaking her head like she sees how wrong she was and she’s sorry. But I have no idea what is going on.Why are there helicopters? Is this the end of it or is there more? The dream ends like that. Me looking over at her with handcuffs on waiting for instructions and me looking back at her like “What?!?”
Written around October 2016 – posted in February 2017
- walking through a forest which was other-worldly
- it was like it was man-made and natural at the same time
- the trees had rocks on them or were made out of rocks or grew through the rocks
- the crickets were there but sparse
- i was being dragged under a car
- feel the ground on my skin
- it was dark
- i felt it & then also backed away and watched it
- it was quite horrible
I’ll tell you what these dreams mean.
A forest is a metaphor for the mind. For it to have an other-wordly feel means I could go to places in my mind which were different than what is predictable and common. Perhaps some might call this a gift with Creativity and perhaps it might also be called a skill at being able to use my imagination with expertise in my creative work endeavors.
Trees are about growth.
Crickets are small insects and the first thing to come to mind is that they are what we feed pet snakes. Snakes are about transformation and change.
To dream of being dragged by a car means someone is doing something which is controlling the direction of my life and they don’t care if it hurts me or not. Since I had a strong physical sensation of my skin on the ground it means there’s a strong likelihood that what the person is doing will show up in my day-to-day life and I will have some hurt and negativity to deal with.
Feeling it and then backing away and watching it means that I can detach from really negative situations and look at them from a distance which gives me a perspective and allows me to grow and learn from the experience.
The feeling of horror in the dream woke me up to something to be alert to. In fact, something really negative did happen in real life a short time after this dream. I’d like to think that I was somewhat prepared for it and that I handled the situation well, all things considered.
In the dream, I went to the washroom and a few really long parasites came out. I did a double-take when I saw them because I wasn’t expecting them. Then when I was sure that’s what they were I said to myself, “well, they are better out than in.” And as I walked away I recalled taking a natural medicine which would help me release parasites and I felt grateful that it was working.
I haven’t dreamed about parasites in such a long time.
The first time was in 2010 when they showed up as a re-occuring issue often.
Then, as I worked through some of the issues around this they stopped showing up in my dreams.
So here is one again.
The good thing is that it was dead and also that it was intentional. So now it’s just a matter of flushing it away and detaching.
No big deal.
A parasite is a creature that leaches off of the host and steals nutrients. In real life, it could be a person who is like a parasite who takes more than they give.
To flip a parasite dream to the positive, the dreamer can strive to become like a positive parasite, attaching to positives and giving a lot more than they take.
I dreamed about being in a house, visiting a friend, and when we drained the tub twice the pipes burst and water gushed through the walls. it nearly burst through but didn’t. the force of it created wind and nearly blew the roof off the house. at some point someone accused me of trying to steal someone’s husband and I said, “no, it’s not like that.” Which was the truth.
When the tub was set to drain a third time I put the plug in and I said, “lets let the walls dry before sending this through.”
In another part, I went into the washroom and 3 spiders fell out of my shirt into the toilet. I stared at them wondering how they got there.
We were staying over at someone’s house and I was trying to set up some activities for G.P. & her friends.
The room was really dark, like a cabin, not enough windows or lighting.
House dreams are about the Self.
Air is about the future.
Water is about Relationships & Life.
Bathrooms are symbols of the place in our selves where we release negatives and also relax and rejuvinate in the tub or shower.
Spiders are about feminine qualities of creation.
Shirt/clothing is about roles.
To dream of a child can be about an actual child or about the dreamer when they were the age of the child in the dream.
Window is about being able to see the Vision.
Lighting is also about being able to see details.
The good thing in this dream is that the dreamer was not doing anything immoral, even though she was accused of that. The dream suggests there are others, perhaps 3 others, who are powerful female figures in her life which are causing her challenges which could have a long term affect on her future.
The old way for her used to be to become deeply emotional and this would tear down walls in herself which was not such a bad thing if she had some work to do on her self. But now she seems to want to protect her house/self and so she puts a plug in. This changes everything.
That is likely why the 3 spiders went down the drain. It’s like they can have their flooding water if they want but she has changed roles and doesn’t want it anymore.
In real life, she can look for opportunities where she didn’t see them before. Instead of becoming upset or saddened or frustrated she can now “put a plug in it” and just be herself and be okay. This is a really good dream.
It will take a bit of effort but it will be well worth it in time.