Power/Conflict | Dreams For Healing

By Richard Hastings

The first thing that I want to say is that it is
important always in the first phase of dream interpretation to deal
with things metaphorically rather than literally because there is more
to be learned on a metaphoric level than on a literal one.

In real life rape is forcing someone to have sexual intercourse
without their consent. In the dream world sexual intercourse, if it
is positive, is the coming together of two sets of spiritual qualities
so that they can work together to achieve something greater. When
you interact with someone else’s qualities, then you can learn them
and integrate them into your life so that they can produce something
new. Rape is being forced to have intercourse with the dark side or
ego side of someone. It causes fear and powerlessness and prevents
people from producing really positive things.

So the purpose of the dream is to actually do the opposite of what
the dream is giving you. Being raped by someone at 15 in
metaphorical terms means being forced to interact really closely with
his ego, which is all of his bad qualities. What is particularly
difficult is that 15 is the age at which you are no longer a child,
where you are taking your first steps into adulthood. So the
challenge you had at that age was that you were living with fear and
forced to be his partner as if you were his partner even though you weren’t.

The fear that the dream produces is having to live out that role
against your will. The consequence of rape is the feeling of
powerlessness and fear so I am sure that these are the feelings that
you have had to live with in relation to someone.

So what the dream is looking for is the opposite in positive
terms, but it is presenting you the rape because it is warning you of
the difficult times ahead with someone and his dysfunctions.

The quality that you needed when you were 15 from someone was the
quality of peacefulness so that you could be guided along your own
path. Instead you got him and his ego, a person barely surviving his
own life. This is not to be said for you to be angry with him. He
was probably doing the best he could. The fact is that what you
needed you didn’t get, so now you have the opportunity to give it to
yourself so that those who come after you as well as you own self can
benefit from it.

One of the ways you can tell about the real rape or imagined is
to analyze how this person used power. If he had power issues,
then you might investigate it further, but if he didn’t, then it is
more likely that it is a dream state and not a real one. One way
or the other, he wasn’t the positive person you needed when you were
making your own first steps toward adulthood and this is the critical
issue for you.

So one of the big questions you are going to have to ask yourself
is why peacefulness? Why not courage, determination, love, honesty,
or a host of other virtues? The virtue of peacefulness will allow
you to stay fully on your own own unique path, which is different
probably than almost everyone you know. The further your path is away from the mainstream the more you need the quality of peacefulness. It allows you to be free from distractions and trappings of the world.

You are likely already on that path, but now your poised to take some
major steps forward. That is why you are so keen to do the spiritual
work.

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When there is a message of warning in the dream, such as the one I describe below, it means that when you do the inner work to transform the negative emotion in the dream into something new then if something potentially negative happens in real life you will have the ability to create a really positive outcome. In this way, you can shift your reality into something truly amazing. It takes time and daily effort and the really incredible results will shock and amaze you!

The reason trauma can be healed when you understand the secret messages of your dreams is because dreams exist outside of time & space. When we understand a message in a dream we can learn something about ourselves, our circumstances, and the people around us and we can begin to see negative things coming before they happen. This helps us become more prepared and it empowers us to use our skills, capacities, talents & strengths to create extremely positive experiences for ourselves, our families and our communities.

Truth be told, if there were a reward for having the most foreboding dreams in a row, I think I would win. In the past two weeks in my dreams I am:

canoeing in a river swarming with hungry alligators
hiking on a trail with snakes and lions
confronting an enormous bear trying to get in my house
running to rescue my dog who’s been attacked on the face
watching a herd of gazelles run from an unknown predator

Readers familiar with the way I do dreamwork (which was created & developed by author Richard Hastings), will remember that the many animals showing up in these dreams carries a lot of meaning. Here are four things to keep in mind when dreaming about animals.

Like humans, animals have two sides – a positive expression of their qualities & also a negative expression. Think of how a dog can by loyal and friendly but also vicious & attacking. Dreams about animals signal where some work can be done for the dreamer to be more of the positive & less of the negative.
When new energy is opening up in the dreamer, oftentimes animal dreams show up which provides guidance and clarity. So I can say that the negative energy I’m dealing with is anger, jealousy, hurt, fear – especially of being attacked by someone/something lurking hidden beneath the surface. The positives opening up for me are: empowerment (bear energy), flexibility (snake energy), strength/courage (lion energy), and … I’m still working on the alligator and the gazelle…
When we flip the negative emotion of the dream to its positive opposite then we shift our perceptions and can go for opportunities which can change our circumstances. I suspect the positive of the alligator is being able to be patient and wait for the right time to leap at a goal or opportunity. When I am a Positive Alligator then I don’t react to every passing whim or fancy or emotion. I can be clear-headed, focused & patiently waiting for the right opportunity to go for my goal.
When the dream is positive and outcome is good then it’s a good idea to try to incorporate the qualities of the animal because they will help with the real life situations. If the outcome is negative, then it means some work needs to be done on the issues so the outcome can be positive.

Gazelles are fast (known to run up to 60km/hr) but in the dream when I see the gazelles run by signaling that a predator is coming I turn to run with them but I know I could never keep up with their speed and in fact my running slowly would make me more vulnerable if it’s a bear or mountain lion. So I turn back to see if anything is coming but it’s just a dark path. I wonder if I can hide or maybe climb a tree. Without knowing what the gazelles are running from I find it hard to know how to protect myself.

Running in dreams usually means wanting to escape something fearful in real life. Often times, the object of the fear is a person in a perceived position of power. Facing the fear means standing strong, having clear boundaries, and having the Courage to be really big to the task. People who are addicted to power have a lot of ways of trying to make their targets feel small. When we stand in our Truth & our own Empowerment then we can be really big to the task and not allow anyone to make us feel small or threatened.

There are a number of potentially negative situations which can happen, at home, in the workplace or in the community. There are a few things I’m facing right now – all of us are facing something to one degree or another. When we remember to hold a clear vision of a bright future in our mind & we take positive action towards our goals then we never need to fear any predator. We have all the skills, capacities, talents & tools needed to overcome ANY obstacle or challenge that faces us. When we dream about animals it’s a sure sign that great big new energy is opening up and exciting things are happening! We need not be afraid of the change and we can trust ourselves and our inner guidance to move us through any difficulty or deal with any challenge.

Ask your Self: What am I invisioning happening in the future that scares me?

If the negative thing you imagine happening has HAPPENED to you in the past and you are afraid of it happening again, then this is a REAL FEAR and the solution is to have A LOT of Courage and to learn something new to deal with your current life circumstance.

If the negative thing you imagine happening in the future has never happened to you before but you have seen it happen to others (in real life, or movies, or on the news, etc) then the issue is ANXIETY. The solution for anxiety is to look back into your past, remember what you’ve done well & succeeded in before and then repeat those actions again with A LOT OF CONFIDENCE.

I will be writing a lot more about working with Fear & Anxiety in upcoming posts.

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