Category Archives: Addiction (Repetitive Action)

Never-ending Mess Cycle: How To Deal With Addicts

22 June 2017

Mess.

Just the word alone makes me cringe.

It shows up in my dreams and in my real life daily.

I understand that a big mess is a symbol for big ego issues.

I am also beginning to understand that since I’ve gotten really masterful at cleaning up other people’s (ego) messes that there is more to this than what I first realized.

Today I am thinking about a dream image where as soon as I cleaned up a mess it would return.

The feeling of anxiety, frustration, disappointment and fear which this raised brings me to my knees.

And I realize that I am waking up to the reality that some people who like to create messes in other people’s lives are addicted to the thrill of it.

Perhaps they are also addicted to pot, or alcohol, or sex or work – but whatever is their addiction of choice, they like to make messes in other people’s lives so that they can then go about their addiction.

In the dream I felt powerless to deal with it but in real life there are dozens of options.

I’ll write more about this in time.

It’s just an introductory post about the work of truly healing people with addictions.

Overcoming the Attraction to Distraction

06 September 2017

12:21 pm

cellphone

Distractions come in as many different forms as there are people on this planet. Sex, drugs & rock and roll are the easy Go-To because Hollywood promotes this so much but people can get just as easily distracted by a host of other things such as sports, movies, video games, work load, novel series, or particular unsolved mysteries like Bigfoot or UFOs.

The key with making life work is surely “Moderation in all things.” It’s natural for the mind to need a rest now and again from the pressures and stresses of day-to-day life. Dropping everything to binge watch a Netflix series on a Saturday afternoon is not going to make or break a meaningful life. The key is to just notice when the mind is seeking out a distraction. Take note and acknowledge it. Take a rest from the heavy-lifting tasks of daily life and enjoy the much needed break.

But then, before too long and without too much delay, return back to life as you know it and keep on moving forward in the direction of your dreams.

Don’t give up. You’ll get there. Just keep moving.

Dreamwork: Sometimes Disaster Strikes When You Try to Clean Something Which Someone Wants to Remain a Mess – Watch Out: You are Dealing With Someone’s Ego

23 August 2017

When I was young the house I lived in was always dirty. It was cluttered and furniture was in need of repair but it was also dusty and mouldy in some places. When I was about 8 years old I started wanting to live in a clean house and I took it on myself to clean a 3-bedroom, two-story home. The other two people I lived with were busy doing other things like reading novels & playing with barbies. There was a third person I lived with and he was usually outside working on something or other. He was doing his share the best he could.

So anyway, this “cleaning” part of myself showed up in my dream last night.

In the dream, I went over to MG’s place and found it was very filthy. The grim on the floor alone made my skin crawl and there was dust & dirt everywhere! At first I started to clean it myself but then I realized since she made the mess she should also help me to clean it.

But when I tried to talk about it with her she ran to the washroom, locked the door and told me she wanted privacy. After some time I just talked through the door telling her we should have a family meeting to discuss & plan some cleaning for the house. She didn’t want that.

So I went to my room and started cleaning.

Then she came out of the bathroom but was angry & embarrassed. She was behaving in a way to tease me, mock me, harm me and make me feel upset so I decided to leave. I could tell what she wanted was for me to leave and a part of me wished I could figure out how to stay and help but the hurtful words were too hurtful. I had to go.

When she saw me getting ready to leave she looked happy.

She had pushed me away and out and that meant she could keep her messy house.

I was okay with leaving. Afterall, it wasn’t even my mess to clean. My intention had been just to help.

My analysis of this dream is that it is showing me how ego works and that now I can see the extent to which other people go to in order to protect their own selves. Even if their “self” is messy & cluttered, it’s like they fall in love with the mess and they want to keep it that way.

The dream shows me there is a part of myself which loves to clean ego messes. That’s why I didn’t judge the dirty & grime and stepped in to help make it better. I’d likely make a really good PSW in real life with these types of skills.

In real life, there is a situation where someone invited me close to themselves and then got embarrassed and angry when I got a bit too close to their “inner & outer” MESS. What they don’t know is that I don’t judge and I wish them no ill-will. I truly do love cleaning houses. And I truly do love working with people to clean their inner ego messes.

In time, this will become more clear. The dream helps me to understand the process and helps me have some patience as I go through the work.