Category Archives: Addiction (Repetitive Action)

My Dream of Cigarettes

October 05, 2018

In the dream, I am in a convenient store, looking at packs of cigarettes, deciding which ones I should buy. I notice there is a 2-pac with 40 cigarettes discounted and I think I’ll buy those.

I don’t buy them but when I go outside I find a friend and we are walking together. She says she’s memorized the route and neither of us have our phones with us. We start walking and eventually get into this forested area where it’s dark and wet like it’s recently rained.

Something happened here, like an encounter with a large animal but I can’t recall details.

Eventually some others joined us and I think we navigated the way.

Reflections on Patterns in Dreams From Prisoners

Today I listened to a dream from a 23 year old inmate, named Kris, who is in jail for about 6 months for driving violations and not pulling over to police. A police chase ensued and when the cops stopped him, they arrested him. First time in jail. He gave me permission to share his dream and interpretation.

In his dream I saw something, a pattern I’m beginning to see emerge in many of the dreams from the prisoners. Nearly all of them describe a moment in their dream when they “lose their mind” so to speak, where they fall or get shaken up, and then in the dreams they do amazing things to get back to their stability.

The trauma in the dream is the trauma they experienced in real life and it seems that this is where the actions described as criminal originate. They go through trauma and then before they can get grounded again a situation occurs where they have to cope quickly and make decisions quickly but they are not in their reasonable mind, not in their strong Self, because of the trauma (or drugs). Their actions afterwards are taken sort of in a delusional state and many of these actions are unlawful. In many of these dreamers, they didn’t set out to “break the law” but they were trying to go for something when they were trapped in their ego-selves so their decision-making was limited and short-sighted and put the lives and safety of others at risk. At the time, they were not thinking of others because they were in their ego-self which was only about self-protection. Their dreams are showing that they would have or could have helped others if given the opportunities but that is not what life gave them. I’m beginning to see how much influence the environment has on bringing out behaviour in individuals which can be called “criminal.”

The qualities and strength of spirit I’m seeing in these prisoners is truly remarkable. It means in real life they have awesome capacities to help a lot of people and bring a lot of positives to the world. I’m truly seeing the metaphoric jail they live in. Their True Selves are trying to break out of the limitations in life but having very little resources to achieve the positive intentions, resulting in arrests and imprisonment.

I’ll write more details about Kris’s dream soon but I just wanted to share that I am in awe with the dreams I’m hearing and am continually amazed with the power of the True Self to grow through the obstacles, or despite them.

This is just a pattern I see emerging in Dreams From the Box.

If You Dream of a Clogged Toilet, Start Looking For Better Ways to Let Go of Your S*&T.

17 September 2017

One of the most misunderstood metaphors in DreamWork/Changework is theIMG_0874 BATHROOM. Using a bathroom in a dream can best be understood by first noticing where is the bathroom? Is it in your home? Or a public location like a restaurant or school? Is it in an unusual place like an open field? The location of the bathroom in your dream can give you clues as to the message of the metaphor.

The problem with writing or talking about bathrooms in dreams is because they are the most private parts of a home or a public space. A bathroom dream symbolizes the most private parts of the dreamer. How the dreamer deals with anger, jealousy and embarrassment will show up as a dream about using the bathroom.

The positive message about a bathroom dream is that every human being experiences anger, rage, jealousy or embarrassment at one time or another in their lives. Since the purpose of life is to continue growing and developing skills & capacities it means the best way to live is in a constant state of change. Sometimes change is messy and sometimes it’s embarrassing. That is completely okay and to be expected. The better a person gets at working through their anger, jealousy, disappointments, anxieties, etc the better they will get at making their life really work out in amazing ways.

In my dreamwork this morning I was reminded that I have a tendency to hold things in and not want to share the very most private parts of myself. People might chuckle at this, given the very public nature of The Dreamwork Blog but believe it or not, I tend to be more of an introvert and there are parts of myself which I really don’t want to share publicly.

This goes for everyone, no doubt.

If you dream of a clean bathroom which is easy to use, it means everything is working well with you right now and you can just keep doing what you are doing.

If you dream of a clogged bathroom or toilet it means there is some work to do to unclog the way you express your emotions.

So if you dream of a dirty or broken bathroom then you can ask yourself: Where in my life am I holding back some negative emotions and how can I express these things in a better way?

Consider where in your life things are messy or complicated or uncomfortable. Wherever you experience a high degree of stress in your day-to-day life then you can notice that this is the problem area showing up in your dream and you can take steps to make the challenges go away.

The right way to deal with negative emotions will have something to do with your own natural gifts, skills and capacities. The things which come easiest to you and which you have been doing all your life will be a hint at the way you can continue growing by repeating your positive strengths. When you do that, you’ll find bathroom dreams keep getting better and better and maybe stop showing up altogether.

How Dreamwork Heals Negative Patterns of Thought

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What I’m writing about now will likely sound radical to some but will sound like nothing much to others. Dreamwork heals negative patterns of thought which lead to abasement in life by giving the dreamer a new way to deal with negative emotions. Dreamwork is NOT about just getting rid of the old negatives; it’s about increasing the positives.

Dreamwork can really help people who have experienced trauma. The emotional pattern of the trauma/fear is stored in the amygdala in the brain.┬áThese fear-patterns show up in dreams in what some people call nightmares. They show up in real life too, when someone decides they will or won’t do something because of the presence or absence of fear.

By working through the emotions which show up in a dream and by taking small steps daily to build up positive qualities such as Confidence, Courage, Flexibility and Peacefulness then new emotional patterns can develop and essentially re-wire the brain. In this way the entire emotional experience of the dreamer can undergo a 360 degree change.

 

Dream: My Mom Dumps Stuff On Me … Again

13 September 2017

IMG_1326In the dream, I exit my front door and find there is a camper-trailer in the front driveway as well as a truck full of things. The front yard is cluttered full of objects. It looks like someone bought 100 broken things at garage sales and then dumped them all on my front lawn. It doesn’t take me long to recognize that my mom has come in the middle of the night, emptied a yard-full of junk because she didn’t know where else to put it and then left. When I ask her about it, she denies it.

But then I see her ex-husband there moving things out and I know the Truth!

This kind of clutter is NOT ALLOWED on my property and I know when my landlord sees it he will be upset and want me to move it immediately. How can I get my Mom to move it immediately when she won’t admit it is hers?

I consider going to my landlord proactively and telling him what has happened but I know that he will find it very odd and he will consider lots of things including that I have made up some sort of lie to cover up something or someone because it just doesn’t make sense to have a bunch of things on your lawn and not know whose they belong to.

If I don’t tell him and just start helping my ex-step-dad then I look like I’m taking responsibility for it even though it isn’t mine and I have no idea why it is there.

If I don’t tell him and also don’t start help moving it out and cleaning it up then it appears to be mine and by that non-action I invite him over to be the one to bring to my attention the issues.

So in the dream, I’m standing there, looking at this enormous pile of junk 7 feet high on my lawn and I am wondering what on earth can I do now?

As I watch, my ex-step-father just keeps moving things onto the truck and preparing to take them away.

My analysis: Clutter & mess is about the ego in a dream. Sometimes someone becomes so full of ego, so full of their false selves, that they create a lot of “mess” in the lives of others around them. Since I didn’t move in the dream but just watched it means the thing I’m learning to get good at is saying NO to the ego-mess caused by people who are full of their negative selves and keep dumping stuff on me trying to make me look bad. I know the Truth though and others who look close enough can know the Truth too. It’s a good lesson for us all to learn and in time it will get easier and easier!