By Rachel Perry
LONDON, ON. 24 May 2017 – For those who have studied their dreams with an eye to decipher the metaphors and understand the dream’s message for transformation in their lives, what I’m going to say next will come as no surprise. But for those who are new to the idea that unlocking the mystery of a dream can actually enhance every area of life, the contents of this article might be a little hard to swallow.
Parents who can appreciate the metaphors of dreams and who are especially keen to educate their child and support them in the best possible way to develop and grow into the positive expression of their fullest selves will benefit the most from this post.
When a child has a dream or when the parent has a dream about the child, this is an excellent opportunity to learn about the child’s fears and what might be holding them back from really going for the positives in their lives. When a parent can listen to the dream with an ear for hearing the subtle messages of fear, anger, jealousy or anxiety and then consciously seek out to create positive environments for developing Courage, Justice, Inclusion and Serenity then really remarkable progress can be made within a family.
Here is a good example.
The other day I dreamed my daughter ate a large spider. It surprised me to see her do that. One minute the spider was there on the table and I turned my back and then when I looked back at her I found the spider was in her mouth and a few legs hanging out. She had a look on her face which conveyed, “Yeah, I ate a Spider. What’s the big deal?”
When I had this dream and worked through the metaphor I considered how spiders are insects who have the ability to reproduce quickly. Insects in dreams are good metaphors for small negative things which can reproduce and spread quickly. I asked myself, “What is in real every day waking life which can reproduce quickly and spread largely undetected and cause a lot of negative?” The answer is quite simple. Back-biting and criticism is like that.
It doesn’t take much for one person to say a few slightly negative things and for this to spread behind someone’s back for long distances.
So I was reflecting on my daughter’s actions that day. I was finding it interesting that she ate the spider. What does that mean? Does it mean she has the power to destroy the spread of back-biting? Or does it mean she nourishes herself on the back-biting activity?
Later that day there was an event which answered this question for me loud and clear!
The full details of that event are shared here.
But in summary, she was just doing her regular ol’ run-of-the-mill pre-teen behaviour and then she texted something negative about me to 10 people using her iphone. It was interesting for me to read how each person responded because it told me a bit about their character. But that topic will be explored in more detail with a Digital Media expert.
For now, I want to point out the very worst of the responses.
When my daughter texted to someone a negative thing, their response was, “Call me,” and then, “I should call the police.”
Considering that there was no crime and considering that my daughter’s words were largely fueled by her own high emotions about a situation and not necessarily bases on a lot of fact, the suggestion to call the police was a harmful hindrance to getting to the heart of the matter and it delayed something positive coming out of the situation.
But when she did that then I understood the metaphor of the spider in the mouth.
My daughter has the potential to spread a lot of positives in the world and to uplift the hearts of many. But she also has the ability to spread negatives, especially when she shares half-truths to people who are already keen to use threats of calling the Police or CAS as weapons for control.
As a mother then, it is my job to notice my daughter’s strengths and to nourish them.
I can also notice her challenges and support her in minimizing the negatives and developing new capacities and skills.
It can take a lifetime but it’s worth it.
I am grateful to the dream because it gave me a nice metaphor before the event happened through which I could consider the events that were occurring that day. The dream helped me to parent her through her own crisis and it helped me to support the others who were affected by the situation.
This is the way a dream can help a parent to bring out the best in their children. By seeing the negatives and acknowledging them and then flipping them to their positive opposite, parents can help children become the best they can be. In this way, parents can help children develop their capacities and skills so that they can experience the full expression of their True Selves throughout their lifetime and have a lot of Joy and Fulfillment.
When we think of the gifts of characters as gems which are hidden within us, and we take the time to polish these gems, to nurture positive development of qualities of Compassion, Peacefulness, Courage, Enthusiasm, etc then we can truly see miraculous growth in our children and within our families.