I recently dreamed of kissing someone, training as a cop, and watching an emergency operation with rudimentary tools, which I will talk about in more detail in this post. If you didn’t get a chance to read the dream before, here is a link.
Writing about having a dream with a kiss in it seems like a pretty radical thing to do but that’s just looking at the metaphor from one direction. If you look at it from another direction you can think of this metaphor of kissing just as simple as the metaphor of skating or bike riding. Every activity we dream of is symbolic. Sure, it’s a powerful and meaningful symbol which everyone needs to understand for themselves but in the grand scheme of things it’s really no more interesting than a symbol of swimming, for example.
In the past, I never wrote about the intimacy metaphor because I thought it was too taboo. But then I heard two things which changed my mind about that. I heard that, culturally speaking, sex was easier to write and talk about than money and well I’ve been writing and talking about money for the past four years with success so then why not try my hand at writing about kissing too. Right?
The other thing I heard was a remark that since everyone dreams about sex or sexuality at one point or another then to exclude it from a blog about dreams would be ludicrous. They are right. So in 2017 I’ve started to include these kinds of dreams. If you don’t like them, just click away and come back tomorrow to see a dream of a different nature. Today, there’s kissing. Tomorrow there might be skating. Who knows!
Another reason why it’s a good idea to pay attention to dreams with kissing is because in Richard Hastings Dreamwork/Changework approach he describes how kissing or sex in a dream is a symbol for merging or coming together of qualities. The way I see it, it’s the ultimate positive metaphor of dreamwork if you understand it correctly.
Think of it this way, if you start out having a nightmare and issues show up around fears and you work on these issues until there is more Courage, Confidence, Determination and Enthusiasm then a sure sign of victory over your fears is to have a dream of making out with someone who has the positive qualities of Courage, Confidence, Determination and Enthusiasm. That’s not the end of course. As in real life, the metaphor of sex is also about the chance of conceiving a baby. The metaphor of conceiving a baby is like conceiving an idea or a project. I might be getting into some complex principles here and I don’t mean to confuse the issue. Let’s get back to the dream.
The qualities of the guy in my dream were Courage, Confidence, Determination and Enthusiasm and he used all these in his work as a police officer. So the first metaphor is about my being able to more fully integrate with these 4 qualities now.
The reason this is so interesting is because the next part of the dream is actually me in training to be a cop. So the metaphor of that says that in real life I am currently using these 4 qualities and I identify with them. Since the training experience was positive and warm it means I don’t have a lot of issues around this.
The operation in the dream is really the area of biggest challenge. By noticing this and solving my strong negative feelings around it I will be better in all areas of life. The approach that I use to solve this challenge works for everyone.
So the way the operation went is that there was a woman who needed something cut out of her neck. She could read and understand the text book description of the operation and would read out instructions to the man I had been kissing. He was good with a knife and could cut into people’s skin without being squirmish but he couldn’t do that and read at the same time. So she was reading the instructions, even though her neck was being cut, and he was listening to her description and then cutting the area to remove what had to come out. I’m not sure if it was a bullet or a cancer or what, but it had to come out.
The man was laying on his back on the bed and I was sitting on him as he turned to his right to cut her neck as she sat on a chair beside the bed. In the dream I only saw him get half way through the operation but it was going well and seemed like it would end well.
Because all aspects of the dream are very positive in every way it means for me to keep moving forward in every area of my life right now.
The key here is to not take the messages literally when they are not meant to be.
The message of the dream doesn’t mean to go out and kiss people I’m working or training with. The metaphor is to get closer to them. I can get closer to people who I am working with by completing tasks they are waiting for, by sharing updates and information, by publishing pieces I’ve completed editing, etc. This is one way to take the metaphor of getting closer and translating it to an action in real life.
It’s like the dream wants me to remember the qualities of Courage, Confidence, Enthusiasm and Determination in all areas of my life now. So what I do as I’m reflecting on the steps I’ll take for my day is just to see what I’ve been working on, what is still pending and then move forward using the unique combination of these qualities which really works successfully for me.
This is a really advanced description of the dreamwork process and will make the most sense to people who are already familiar with the 19-Day Transformation Process or Dreamwork Module 1 or have listened to Richard’s recent podcast. For those who have a more in-depth of understanding about the nature of this work when you read this post it’ll be really easy for you to see how it can also apply to your life and you can just move forward in all areas with these four virtues too. The process works for everyone.