If we think of the place we travel to when sleeping as another world this helps to give perspective. Sometimes we see ourselves in situations which are torturous. In a dream or real life, we can also find ourselves in situations which elicit memories of strong feelings of fear or terror.
The real big challenge with torture is that it is the intentional harming of of someone else by an individual or group of individuals who set out to dis-empower another. If you have been abused in your life, or if you have encountered a narcissistic person, or if you have gone through a war you will likely know exactly what I mean when I say the things that these people say or do can really cause significant duress.
Even worse is that sometimes these sick individuals, who set out only to make you look bad, will actually get pleasure in seeing you in emotional or physical pain. Can there be anything less humane than that?
So what to do then? If you find yourself experiencing horrific conditions where someone is intentionally harming you in a dream or in real life, what can you do? This article gives some suggestions.
To begin with here is a definition of torture:
Torture (from the Latin tortus, “twisted”) is the act of deliberately inflicting physical or psychological pain on an organism in order to fulfill some desire of the torturer or compel some action from the victim. Torture, by definition, is a knowing and intentional act; deeds which unknowingly or negligently inflict pain without a specific intent to do so are not typically considered torture.
In a dream recently, I was in a situation where someone who was supposed to have a role of support and care was actually doing water torture on me. Someone else was getting pleasure from watching me fight for my life. This dream is a reminder of the trauma I experienced in the past and signals a recognition of how far I’ve come in that no one ever does this type of thing in real life to me anymore.
The fear is real though.
In real life, no one likes to be put into a situation where they are made to be humiliated or degraded. Because I am a public figure I am always subject to the possible persecutions from others. That is just part of the territory as a published author.
What is really special and unique about the dream is that even though I nearly drown on the water, I still sit up and am fine. It surprises my torturers. What did they think? They would kill me? They were trying to get information from me…what did they think? They could just take it?
The fact that I survived in the dream just fine says I am really good at being able to go through potentially challenging situations and come out the other side unscathed.
There are 5 keys to being able to do this –
- See the End in the Beginning
- Stay Calm. Stay Strong. Stay Grateful.
- Remember that you can observe the negative in a situation without having to absorb it
- Keep a strong and clear vision of what you are going for in your mind at all times.
- Know your boundaries, reinforce them, and keep them strong & clear too.
In real life, there are many people who are dealing with a negative figure in their lives. That negative person will use any method in order to try to gain control over the individual’s life. The root causes is that there was trauma in their early life and they closed themselves off so much that they no longer function as a typical human would, governed by compassion and service.
Instead, they are governed by intense feelings of shame and fear. They are willing and able and capable of destroying anyone on their path to what they want. Whether it’s power or reputation or money or a relationship. They will hunt after their goal and seek to destroy anyone in its way.
It doesn’t matter though. Because in the dream and in real life people like this have very little power anymore. The world has changed. The vast majority of people’s hearts and minds have changed. Opportunities and possibilities for growth and progress are abundant now. So even if a negative figure shows its ugly snake head and tries to attack, it just can’t do its dirty work anymore.
It’s powerless now and just doesn’t want to admit it.
So to answer the question of this article – how to deal with nightmarish negative figures and the dirty environments they try to create? The solution is simple. When you stay True To Your Self and when you stay focused on your very positive vision for yourself and others whom you love then you will find yourself unharmed by anyone. And even if a hint of the old kind of stuff shows up, you’ll see it quickly, before it can cause any damage, and you can change course accordingly.
Here is a video to explain in more detail what I mean by this.
2 thoughts on “How To Deal With Torturous Conditions in the Dream World and in Real Life”
My mums best friend was emotionally abused for many years by her partner. It eventually turned physical and she felt trapped and unable to escape, or even to tell anyone.
She ended up fighting back one day when he tried to rape her. She fought back by grabbing his testicles after he removed his clothing and squeezing and twisting on them really hard and not letting go of them. In her youth she had learned that a man quickly loses all of his strength, curls over, and collapses and eventually passes out in under ten seconds if his testicles are forcefully squeezed, no matter how big and strong he is, so this is what she decided to do.
Taking advantage of a natural advantage we women have in not having any part of our bodies as vulnerable as the testicles helped her to escape to safety and an abusive relationship.
I always think of her for inspiration whenever I have difficult thoughts to deal with, and I have learned of a very powerful self-defense technique for women.
Thank you for sharing this feedback. I’m sorry to hear of the experience of your mom’s best friend. It’s good that she is out of it now and found ways to protect herself. I strongly feel that the more we talk about our experiences as women the more change can happen.