In order to do this positive visualization technique which I’m going to describe here, it’s a good idea to remember that we all live in two worlds simultaneously. What I mean by that, is that we live in the “outer world” which is the physical world which we all share here in our day-to-day life here on Earth, and then we also live in our own “inner world.” Our inner worlds are much more private, personal and subjective. They are filled with our memories, emotions and hopes.
We always have a choice about how we express our inner worlds.
We always have a choice about our inner environments. We can choose happiness, peace, kindness and enthusiasm. These emotions and experiences can fill us with a lot of positive feelings about our outer worlds.
The outer world also influences our inner world, of course. We have a lot of control over this as well. We can learn to not let the changes and happenings in the outer world to affect us to the degree that it lets anger, jealousy or fear into our internal worlds.
Here is an example and a technique to use to flip something such as anger into justice.
Lets say someone invites you to meet them somewhere and then they don’t show up.
It’s rather easy to feel anger, abandonment, jealousy and fear. Thoughts that might arise may be something like this, “He’s not showed up. He doesn’t like me after all. He doesn’t respect me. He doesn’t care about me. He cares about others more. He likes others more than me. I don’t deserve this treatment. I’m never talking to him again.” Things like that.
Instead of allowing what someone did on the outside to trigger these negative feelings and letting the negatives linger, it’s good to notice they are there, and then let them go.
One way to let them go is to ask yourself, ‘what is the biggest challenge I’m having about this? What hurts the most?”
When you can identify the feeling, name it, and even see where the feeling shows up in your body, then you can release it. Consider: do your fists feel clenched, or your jaw tight? Maybe your stomach is upset or your heart racing.
Letting go is one thing but here is the key that so many visualization techniques out there are lacking.The key is to replace the negative memory with a positive one.
So one way to do this is to turn down those negative thoughts as if they were a radio. Hear them loud and clear – but then turn the volume down to 0.
Or imagine the visual image of being left alone and then replace it with a positive image of being included. Imagine the positive until the negative disappears.
This helps to release the hold that the feelings of abandonment may have on you. And it helps to put things into perspective.
With a new perspective, and a positive feeling about the next step, great things can happen.
Try it. It helps.
Here is a video talking about when I first started turning negative to positive in my mind.